Sex has everything to do with maintaining a successful long term relationship. I’m just going to put it out there, if the sex isn’t mutually satisfying the relationship has a very small chance of surviving. I am in no way negating all of the many other components that make a long term relationship successful, but most (since there is always the tiniest possibility of an exception applying the never say never factor) relationships will fail if this vital component is lacking.
I will even go so far as to say that if your reading this, and shaking your head in disagreement, it is because deep down you know this is true. My view of relationships is the same as my view of everything else in life. I believe there are no set rules in this life for most situations, excluding cases of abuse. I have raised my own two children with the mindset that what may apply to one person, may not apply to another. There are a multitude of ways to do the right thing, as well as, a multitude of things the wrong way. Relationships are like fingerprints or snowflakes. Each is an original that can only be guided by the people who are creating the relationship. I know those of you who wish to oppose this subject are saying well what if the couple decides that they don’t think sex matters. This is as I stated earlier, what falls into the very minute category of never say never.
Sex is the great equalizer within a relationship. It is the one component in the relationship that sets all other relationships apart. It is intimacy in it’s highest form. A connection that covers a multitude of needs within the relationship. Desire, pleasure, need, comfort, relief, happiness, laughter, sadness, excitement… The key factor here is that the very act itself must be equally satisfying to both (in some cases all) partners. If both partners are not completely truthful about their own sexuality you will build a false intimacy. Sexual compatibility can be faked, but it can not be faked forever. It is the foundation of all long term relationships. You can build a house without a solid foundation, from the outside it may look like the most beautiful home. In time it will begin to crack, slowly deteriorating and eventually it will collapse. 😉