I can not stay positive on this one. So if your if you’re trying to avoid negative angry feelings don’t read this post! Have you ever been so pissed that your blood literally feels like it’s cooking you from the inside? I am so angry that I can hardly see straight. I know “He (They in this case) who anger you control you,” but today the only cheek I want to turn requires dropping my pants to expose my much less than tasteful kiss me side.
Our Daughter got engaged over Christmas, this is something that brought us all so much happiness. She and her fiance have been together for seven years. We very much love this young man. More importantly he very much loves our daughter. Our entire family was included in this wonderful news. They were also told when the exact date of the wedding would be.
She is the first of the grandchildren to be engaged, so it was a very big event for our family. Last month her older cousin also became engaged. This was also wonderful news as we very much love her cousin, and the fiance. So what’s my problem? In the words of my son and his friends these “Style Biting Bitches” hijacked our wedding by setting their date a month before ours!
Next issue the cousin who we know had already set the date of the event called our daughter to pretend like she was actually asking her if it was okay! They caught our daughter off guard with the call, a complete ambush, so they could perpetuate the idea that they needed her assurance that it was okay. Now this cousin is an only child,and highly competitive by nature. The cousin is also highly intelligent, and sadly equally selfish. Our daughter (who I am so proud of) told her cousin that if this date was significant that they should follow their hearts.
The fact that my daughter who had just been socially bitch slapped by a person who was FULLY aware of their intentions pisses me off to no end! You know how when you get ambushed, and you start to review previous conversations in your head, then the light bulb goes off because you realize that a line of questioning was actually just a gathering of information for a hidden agenda? This is what has been playing over and over in our minds. We were intentionally fucked over.
To make matters worse they know if we say anything against this wedding we will be no better than our “Style Biting” backstabbing family members! It’s absolutely the worst feeling in the world for me as a mom to know that my daughter has been treated this way by family members. I am beyond furious, I am completely disgusted!
I’m torn apart by my own anger. I want to let this go, but I just cannot seem to do so. The Mother of the cousin called me to feel out my perspective. This of course was done in the same pretentious bull shit way her child issued it’s phony call to my daughter. They truly believe that they have been ever so clever, but lies have a way of exposing those who issue them. As she rambled on about the fact that they have already acquired their venue along with a list of their other wedding accomplishments it seemed to escape her mind that her child just did the fake call for approval the day before yesterday. Since we have been planning our wedding since December we know that kind of thing can not possibly be accomplished in two days!
We only hide our actions when we understand that what we are doing is wrong. I will swallow my anger because doing anything else would further cast negativity onto my daughter’s day. As angry as I am I would also never intentionally do anything to hurt the cousin that I deeply love. So you see my predicament? Help me!! Please help me try to do what’s right. I would love any suggestions you might have, as I am clearly to close to this situation to be rational…