Confronting The Other Woman (G-uno)

Anger is powerful emotion it can turn even the most gentle individual into someone who you do not recognize. Confronting the other woman who happens to be the secretary in your husbands office is without a doubt something that would fall into that category. My friend in her normal state of being would have never had a public confrontation with anyone! Maybe a luncheon where she would discuss whatever was bothering her, but a public display of anger, never.
According to the other secretary in the office, a woman we’ve known for years who called me to come, and pick up our friend before she did something she would completely regret. Our friend had planted herself on the young woman’s desk directly facing her in order to have a little chat. By the time I got there, the young woman was standing backed into a corner. Hubby was yelling (but in no way approaching his angry wife) that if she did not leave he would call the police.
She was laughing at hubby saying ” Maybe you should call the police on yourself to report a robbery. Maybe they will go easy on you if you promise to return the baby to her cradle.” This is where I tell her we are late for our meeting, and I tug her by the elbow out of there. I convinced her to leave with me. So then we went back to her house. I asked her why she went to the office? I told her I understood her anger, but that I thought it would only be something she would regret doing later on down the road.
We both just sat there for a while, then she reminded me that she had picked the young woman for this position to help her make some decent money while she finished college. She also reminded me that she had taken her shopping because she didn’t have the money to buy her office attire. Then she reminded me that she had also loaned this young woman money to buy a decent car to drive to work, and class.
So then I asked her if she went there to demand that she give back all the things she had given to her. She smiled at me, and said “No. She told her she could keep it all because she was sure she would need it. Then  she gave her all his prescriptions including the one for his Viagra. Then she thanked her for taking his old ass off her hands, saving her from dealing with the old man he would soon grow to be. Then she told her not to get use to the vacation house, or anything else that belonged to her because they would not be sharing anything else.”

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  1. #1 by KcRambles on December 8, 2015 - 7:30 pm

    I love what she told her. So true though.

    • #2 by idioglossiablog on December 8, 2015 - 8:08 pm

      I liked it too. 😉 The old-ass comment was pretty funny. First spark of humor I’ve seen since this whole nightmare started. Thanks for weighing in. G-uno

  2. #3 by blahpolar on December 8, 2015 - 7:33 pm

    A stylish meltdown, but oh hell the pain that must be behind that.. Poor woman.

    • #4 by idioglossiablog on December 8, 2015 - 8:01 pm

      I cleaned the language up a tiny bit. 😉 Your right though she is really hurting. I am so heartbroken to see her go through all of this, I’m not sure how I would handle this if I were in her shoes. G-uno

  3. #5 by Bugsmetwo on December 9, 2015 - 2:52 pm

    Thank you. I needed to read this today. I feel her pain and anguish.

    • #6 by idioglossiablog on December 9, 2015 - 6:08 pm

      Seeing her go through this is excruciating. Thanks for weighing in, I’m deeply sorry that this is so relatable. If it’s not to painful maybe you can share things I might be able to do to help, or even caution me on what not to do. G-uno

  4. #7 by Polysyllabic Profundities on December 9, 2015 - 3:43 pm

    What an ordeal….the poor woman.

    • #8 by idioglossiablog on December 9, 2015 - 6:13 pm

      It’s just excruciating to see her going through this, I just keep imagining what it would feel like. G-uno

      • #9 by Polysyllabic Profundities on December 9, 2015 - 6:43 pm

        My divorce was much more amicable but still difficult. She’s lucky to have you.

        • #10 by idioglossiablog on December 9, 2015 - 7:01 pm

          Thank you, I’m really the lucky one she has been an amazing friend to me over the years. If it’s not too personal may I ask how long it took you to get over the initial sting of it all? G-uno

          • #11 by Polysyllabic Profundities on December 9, 2015 - 7:12 pm

            My situation was a bit different since I asked him to leave. But I was angry for quite a while. I couldn’t let go of the hurt that I felt and just couldn’t really bring myself to forgive him. About 4 months after the last communication we had, I realized I was carrying far too much negative energy and I deserved better so I finally let it go.

          • #12 by idioglossiablog on December 9, 2015 - 7:24 pm

            Your not only Santa, but your courageous as well. I will be able to tell her there will come a time when this will hurt less. Thank you, G-uno

          • #13 by Polysyllabic Profundities on December 9, 2015 - 7:27 pm

            I gained a lot of my new strength from it. Best of luck to her….and to you with all your support.

          • #14 by idioglossiablog on December 9, 2015 - 7:37 pm

            Thank you.

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