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Tarzan Strikes Out At The “Ya ya’s” (G-uno)

Yesterday we all joined our girl Jane at her house to continue pushing forward with her youngest daughter’s June wedding, and of course to find out what’s going on with her & Tarzan’s little situation. Jane apologized to us for leaving us all hanging there, and told us that the whole thing just completely blew her away. She also told us that she, and Tarzan had been talking things through by phone. I think they are both too embarrassed to do this face to face.
He told Jane he was mostly embarrassed that we (his words “The Ya Ya’s”) had to be there front, and center to witness one of the most humiliating moments of his life. This of course had me wondering what else could have been more humiliating than this little fiasco, but I  will try to stay on task here. Your noticing our little circle’s new nickname “The Ya ya’s?” LOL not to digress  too much here again, but the fact that Tarzan knew who the Ya Ya’s were also amused me to no end.
One of the other girls in our circle was not so amused by his reference of us, and pointed out that he probably wouldn’t be too pleased if we reference him as “Betty Crocker,” or “The Wedding Planner!” I don’t have to tell you that by this time we were all on our second pitcher of Margaritas, and busting out with laughter.
Jane told us that Tarzan feels like he’s not just dating her, but all of us. To be fair we have all heard this comment at one time, or another from each of our significant others. We are a tight bunch with over 26 years of friendship bonded between us.We do tend to get together, and analyze most of what goes on in our lives. I suppose it is hard for the guy’s to swallow sometimes. However in this case I’m thinking that we are a great way to take some of the self focus off of his jumping in too quickly with the whole proposal thing.
Tarzan did ask Jane if she thought she would ever consider getting married again? Jane told him that she didn’t think so, but then again she never thought she’d be seeing him again either. 😉



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Tarzan Proposed To Jane (G-uno)

Yesterday’s luncheon to put our heads together to plan Jane’s daughter’s wedding turned into a complete nightmare! Originally we planned to meet at Jane’s house for lunch, but Tarzan told Jane he wanted to help out by having all of our girls over to his house instead. He wanted to cook lunch for our bunch so we could focus on putting this wedding together since we have all of five whole weeks to do so. The wedding will be on Saturday June 25th, 2016.
Jane was thrilled, and we were too because Tarzan is a stellar cook! When we arrived at his house we were quickly greeted by paper wedding bells on the front door, and when we went inside the theme was perfectly clear. This lunch was wedding themed from the appetizers right on through to the dessert.
We were each given a glass of Sangria, and led to a beautiful dinning room table complete with a beautiful flower arrangement. We were served scallops wrapped in bacon (screw the full length mirror!), then we were served grilled fish with Saffron rice, and a beautiful spinach & Feta cheese salad. All of us were gushing over Tarzan’s delicious food. We joked that we were annoyed with Jane for making him where clothes to serve our lunch. We all know that Tarzan is predominately a nudist. Jane joked back that she would share his cooking, but not anything more.
We were throwing the wedding details together like absolute pro’s, and then came the dessert. A miniature two layer wedding cake, with a tiny cupid sporting an engagement ring on the tip of it’s arrow, and a sign around it’s neck that read “Jane will you marry me?” As the rest of our group sat wide eyed mouths opened, Tarzan had knelt next to Jane’s chair I looked up at Jane’s face as the words “no” came out of her mouth in what seemed like slow motion. I froze.
Tarzan in complete shock stood up, and said” no? ” Tarzan ran behind her completely in shock while the rest of us looked at each other in complete disbelief over what we had just witnessed. I don’t think in the history of time our little Sangria filled group had ever sobered up so quickly. Jane pulled out of Tarzan’s driveway in record time. He walked back into the house looked at all of us, grabbed his keys, got into his car and left.
We tried repeatedly to call Jane. She wouldn’t pick up, so I texted her and told her Tarzan left too right after she did. Jane texted back that he was not with her, and that she was okay. Then she asked us to give her some space. So we all cleaned up our lunch. We put the cake back into the refrigerator (no we didn’t eat it but there was some discussion about that too), but mostly we were all still stunned. We left Tarzan a note saying thank you, and sorry. Then we locked up, and left.
I tried calling Jane several times today between my jobs. I guess I’m just going to have to give her some space.


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Wedding Woes ( G-uno)

Weddings like most family orientated events are a lot more complicated underneath the surface. No matter how hard you try to leave out the drama it still seems to come creeping back in ever waiting to test your patience. We have a HUGE family so things can get a little tricky. As the mother of the bride I am not much help because unlike a great deal of women out there I never really spent a lot of time planning my own wedding.

In fact I decided to get up early on our wedding day to go to the beach with my groom. I was late getting home so I did not have time to get my hair or my make-up done. I literally showered threw on my dress, and went to the church. Luckily our daughter is no bridezilla. She is doing everything she can to keep things drama free, but it still seems to creep in at the most unexpected times.

Our first difficulty was in making the guest list. My husband’s family is huge! Unfortunately our budget is not. Our future son-in-law, and our daughter have insisted on paying for most of the wedding their selves. So the guest list will be 150. This meant trimming the family tree considerably. So to be fair they cut everyone off after the second cousins. I think this was probably the most difficult decision they’ve had to make.

Secondly our niece who got engaged five months after our daughter decided that she would like her wedding to be 6 weeks before ours. So this is a very tricky balancing act as well. Not only because of the timing, but she lives in a different state. We have our own wedding events prior to our wedding, so the entire family is a little stressed over trying to meet both of the couples events. We have had to just say up front that we will only be attending the wedding. This did not go over very well with our niece, or her mother. I did step up to gently remind them that by choosing to have their big day six weeks before ours they surely had to realize our wedding events were going to be impossible to completely coordinate. So there are some hard feelings there, but in all fairness there is only so much time everyone can take off from work. Not to mention the issues of setting up our own ceremony.

Our third issue is the photographer. After seeing her photos from other weddings we have decided that her artistic vision is not quite what we have in mind. After the engagement photos our daughter has been anxious about her style, but really does not want to insult her in any way. I told our daughter to forget about the deposit. We are giving 7 months notice of cancellation. I told her to blame me. Just say that I am paying for the photography, and that I am insisting on using another photographer.

Our fourth issue is the Mother-in-law. She seems to have an issue with every single choice the kids have made regarding the wedding. She has even told our daughter that she plans on wearing black (implying that she is in mourning), and will be bringing her own wine to the wedding because their choice of wine is unacceptable. They have tried to include her, but she has declined repeatedly. If she does not like the choices the kids have made she simply refuses to participate. I’m not exactly sure about how to approach this issue. It’s complicated because she, and the father-in-law are divorced. He has been in another relationship for over ten years, and the kids love his girlfriend very much. Trying to make everyone feel included without stepping on any toes has been almost impossible.

At this point I am just trying to do whatever I am asked to do. I am enjoying watching our kids plan their special day. I think they have done a great job at every turn. My husband, and I just keep telling them it’s their day. I just wish everyone else could adopt that perspective. 😉

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